Friday, August 28, 2009

The long view

Today is day 7 of the Bandar Occupation. No casualties to date. We three are settling into a routine, a little more slowly than surely. I am mindful to celebrate progress over perfection. Note the victories no matter their size. And keep going after experiencing setbacks, neither dwelling on nor ignoring them. We always move forward.

One of Bandar's favorite activities used to be sitting in the backyard garden, under "the zebra," as she calls our gazebo in her broken English. Today was pleasant enough to position her at the back door, where she had a clear view of our backyard wildlife-habitat, albeit from a different angle. She had that familiar look of contentment in her eyes, simply soaking in the scene and watching her youngest daughter pulling weeds.

Every day with Bandar has given me the gift of a new appreciation for my own relative freedom and mobility, to work in the garden or run errands, to get out and meet with colleagues, clients and friends. Sophie and I have to plan more and further in advance, making sure that one of us, a close friend or family member can hang with Bandar during her ongoing recovery. But we can't really compare our level of inconvenience to Bandar's house arrest.

Thanks to my brother-in-law Morris, Sophie and I will get out for an anniversary dinner and celebration tomorrow. We married Aug. 29, 1998.

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